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What Mom Bloggers Can Do When You Don’t Want To Quit But You Don’t Want To Do What You Are Doing

Life is like a balancing act, and sometimes when there’s too much to juggle a ball will get dropped throwing the whole rhythm out of whack.

That’s one of the reasons I don’t believe in New Years Resolutions. You can read all about that here if you’d like.

Are you a mom blogger that has been tirelessly spinning your wheels? Or are you a mom, in general, going through burnout? Here is something you can try when you don’t want to quit but you don’t want to do what you are doing.

Don’t Want To Quit

I juggled everything seamlessly before the holidays but then took a break while the kids were home. I have to admit it was a nice breather from balancing kids stuff, house stuff and blog stuff.

The kids went back to school. And I sort of, kind of, went back to blogging and got a few posts out. I didn’t go all out on the blog because I was enjoying not having to juggle so many things. I was up to date with my daily tasks. I felt more engaged with my kids. My daughter even got fully potty trained!

All because I wasn’t sidetracked with writing content, pinning schedules, Facebook blog group involvement and all other stuff that’s needed to run a blog. As much as I enjoyed putting Abundant Full Life on the back burner I felt stuck somewhere between wanting to get back at it and lacking motivation. It reminded me of a love-hate relationship with exercise. I enjoy it but hate doing it all at the same time.

Don’t Want To Do What You Are Doing

I didn’t want to throw in the towel though. There are things I like about blogging. I love to write. I love to help others. I enjoy connecting with other moms.

My focus wasn’t there though. It was on SEO rules, time management must-dos, promo need to do, pinning I-don’t-know-how-to-do, drive traffic how-the-heck-do-you-do.

Not only was my focus not on my writing and audience, I was no longer focused on my family. Daily views, or lack thereof, and other stuff, was becoming more important.

I met with my friend and fellow blogger for a little pep talk and came away with this mantra: God first, family second, blog third (or fourth) forget the rules, do what you want to do, drop the things you don’t want to do and leave it all up to God.

What Mom Bloggers Can Do

After that I felt ready to get back into the drivers seat. I was going to refocus my attention on the basics of blogging, enjoy serving and connecting and just go from there.

Then the kids got sick. Then we had snow days. Then polar vortex days. Then ice days. And while I’m writing this, we’re on our 4th week with school getting canceled in the middle of the week due to snow.

Another interruption. Another delay.

Isn’t that just like motherhood?

Right when we think we can set out to do something we planned a wrench gets thrown into the mix. Time to start dinner? No, time to clean up an accident. Bed-time for mommy….umm no, time to calm a nightmare. Time to sit down and write a blog post. More like time to put out a sibling squabble, then get them a snack, then help them with homework….

Life.

So how does all of this relate to you and how can it help you?

If you find yourself juggling too much, or feeling like you want to do things differently but not sure how, I highly recommend taking a breather from whatever it is that is too much to handle at the moment.

Focus on the things that need to be attended to.

Simplify life in areas that can be simplified.

Let things simmer down.

After all of that then reflect on how you feel about the thing that was driving you over the edge. Want to drop it? Let it go. Want to keep it, then how can you change things up so that you are motivated to work on it again.

Forget the rules.

If using all of the tutorials out there feels like more work instead of help forget that too. You’re smart you can create a system that works for you!

See what happens.

I know these are generalities but situations are different for everybody, so generalities work. However, if you are wanting to get more guidance on how this can relate to you specifically, drop me a line. I used to help my students how to figure out grad school, life, family and work balance in my former life.

So here I am, writing a post for the first time in a while. I must admit I was apprehensive at first because I dreaded having to write something within the confines of blogging formats. My SEO score is red, thank you Yoast for letting me know. I can’t think of a catchy headline, keywords or title. Ya know what? Who cares.

I am showing up and writing and hopefully helping someone along the way.

I used to say two things to my clients: We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we react to it. Sometimes taking a step forward means taking a step back.

I finally heeded my own advice. Perhaps this post isn’t my best work, but it’s something and it’s from the heart. So here it is.

Like getting back into running, sometimes you start out going one block, then two, then three and so forth. I hope to do the same with Abundant Full Life.

I am creating more stuff behind the scenes, and hope to crank out more posts. I’m just not going to worry about all of the rules. It will be interesting to see where it gets me. I’m not here for me though, all that really matters is that perhaps someone is touched by something I wrote.

In the meantime, if you’re looking for some inspiration while we are getting through the depths of winter, here is a little uplifting thing I wrote last year when it felt like winter was hanging on. May your joy be full.

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3 Comments

  • Samantha

    Ugh, do I EVER relate to this! Despite barely managing to post a few times a month, I was totally feeling blogger burnout before the holidays and stepped wayyyyy back. Like, didn’t touch anything for over a month. And it actually felt great. I relaxed with my husband in the evenings instead of frantically trying to pin stuff on Pinterest, or watch tutorials on SEO, or participate in Share groups on Facebook. I even did a puzzle for the first time in 2 years!

    …But I missed the fun parts of blogging–the writing, and connecting with other people. So I’m easing back into it, like you, but trying to keep my head on straight and not become so consumed. But man, it’s TOUGH! It sometimes feels like you have to be ALL IN in order to be successful with blogging. But, ya know, keeping your sanity is important, too. 🙂

    • admin

      Yes keeping your sanity is important! Good for you for recognizing that you needed to take a step back for a bit. I hope as you get back into it you’ll enjoy it more. How’s the saying go, “keep your nose to the grindstone?” In other words focus on what matters and forget the rest.

  • Stacy

    Spot on girl! So feel the same… burnt out, listening to too many coaches, how tos…. my favorite part of this post was throwing out the rules and focus on serving others!!!! Well done!thanks for being REAL!